“I’ll be nice to you, IF you’re nice to me first.”

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“I’ll be nice to you if you’re nice to me first.”  “How I treat you depends on how you treat me.”  “I’m not supposed to like you, so I don’t have to be nice to you.”  There’s a lot of deep rooted beliefs in those mental statements.

 

If those sentiments ring familiar, then it’s possible that the principle teaching of the Great Master known as Jesus is not grasped, understood, let alone utilized.  That principle, known as the Golden Rule, is simply to treat others in the same manner which you would wish to be treated.  Those who get it, get it.  Those who don’t, can’t.

 

One of the profound effects of that teaching is that it is not about other people.  It is a formula for personal happiness.  The Golden Rule is all about you.  Everyone wants to be happy, to feel better in the moment.  Some succeed, many don’t.  Those that don’t likely think to themselves  “I’ll be nice to you IF you are nice to me first.”  The key point of the teaching is missed.  The “action” or energy element is placed on the other person.  You “react” to what this other person does, or does not do.  And if the other person isn’t “nice” to you, then you cannot be “nice” to him.  This creates antagonism and a struggle results.  Listen to others and note how people describe their daily experience as a struggle.  It’s not fate, or the gods, or capricious forces causing their struggle, but a deep seated belief that drives their thinking.

 

The Golden Rule is neutral.  It is the Law of Attraction applied to personal happiness.  Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  Works great, unless you think that you are a worthless, no good, S.O. B., who has sinned, and deserves to be punished.  It you harbor a belief that you should suffer, then you will attract those who will help you fulfill your belief.  That’s how it works.  Until the belief changes, nothing else can.  And, that’s why there was (and remains) so much resistance to the Master’s teaching.  Changing a belief can be very difficult.  My favorite quote is from John Maynard Keynes:  “When someone convinces me that I am wrong, I change my mind.  What do you do?”  If thinking differently (which is what changing belief is) is terrifying, then cognitive dissonance occurs – that miserable state of being when undeniable “facts” challenge entrenched beliefs.  Something has to give – either re-write the facts or change belief.  Changing facts is a time consuming theatre.  Changing one’s thinking is often scary (venturing into the unknown, so to speak.)  How do you feel?  That’s a good indicator of how effectively the Golden Rule formula is being practiced.  Is there a sense of relief when an attitude is changed?

 

For the Golden Rule to be effectively applied, the fundamental question must be answered:  Who am I and why am I alive?  (There are many variations of the question, but you get the gist.)  It’s important because you cannot treat anyone else better than you treat yourself.  If you believe that you are created free and with a desire to be happy, then you convey that state of freedom and pursuit of happiness to others.  In return, you attract people and situations that affirm your freedom and happiness.   The Golden Rule in action.  Yet if the answer is oppressed “I was created to serve the tribe (hive, etc.)” then that is the manner you convey to others – who are fellow servants, suppressing individualism.  It takes a lot of effort to suppress innate identity.  History recounts the massive efforts to do that by institutions, ruling class, religions, and so forth.  Simply, if you can’t believe that you deserve or should be happy, then there’s no way you can.  The Golden Rule will make no sense.  You will treat others in the manner you perceive them treating you.  Reaction rather than action.

 

One of the reasons the teaching was so revolutionary is that it presented a way to create a happier life experience as opposed to merely avoiding more suffering and misery.  Same coin, two sides.  The more dominant “philosophy” of that era was do not do to others what you don’t want them to do to you.  In effect, don’t steal unless you want be stolen from, and so forth.  Frankly, not a bad governing approach for a society.  There is an enormous shift in consciousness with the “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  One is to reduce/avoid pain and misery.  The other is to create more happiness by deliberate thinking.  A lot of folks at the time “got it.”  People still do, to this day.

 

The “problem” with Jesus’ teaching, was that it had no need for any institution or external force, to bring about a better life for the individual.  A lot of investment had gone into religion, priesthood, social expectations, family obligations and so forth – a powerful shared belief that a  “good” life was possible only by following the rules of others.  Ignore and suppress intuition and yield to the herd.

 

How entrenched is the momentum of the belief that it takes an intercession from someone or something in order for a person to earn, or be worthy, of a good life?  Martin Luther had some thoughts on the matter – long after the time of Jesus – when the Church became the only way to salvation or a better life.  The whole Protest was for direct personal access to God, via the Bible.  No institution or priesthood was necessary.  The mass media of the day, the printing press, allowed courageous individuals to get the Bible translated into common language, printed, and made available to the “common man.”

 

It can be hard to imagine, now, what a huge deal that was.  So, we can get an idea of the level of angst resulting from the Golden Rule at the time.

 

What is “wrong” with individual freedom and the pursuit of happiness that so threatens many?  Nothing is wrong with it.  So, practice the Golden Rule.  Use the Magic Word, Ashali, it’s a good tool for directing thinking to what is truly desired.  You’ll feel better.  And, isn’t that what it’s all about?

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Accept Your Good!

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Your Good is at hand.  Accept it and be happy.  Right now, this instant, you can begin creating a wonderful life, if you’re not already.  What?  You’re not having a wonderful life?  How can that be?

I haven’t earned it, yet
I don’t deserve it, yet
I haven’t suffered enough, yet
 

Nope.  That’s not why.

“But George, in the real world there is no gain without pain.  If you don’t sacrifice and give up what you desire, then you won’t get anything, and, besides, I must prove myself worthy of having good in my life.”

Say’s who?  Who, or what, demands that you deny your Good?  Seriously, who?  God?  Source?  The All? Who?  What? Who/what limits the good you experience right now?

Would YOU want to inflict suffering on your child?  Of course not.  So, what keeps you from accepting your Good Life, here and now?  There is an answer:  It is your mental attention on the lack or absence of your Good.

It’s been long taught that “there are two sides to everything.”  Everything is dual; everything has poles; everything has a pair of opposites; like and unlike; wanted, unwanted; positive, negative divided into countless degrees.  This is a fundamental structure of the universe.  When we understand this structure, law if you will, we are able to gain more control over our experience.

Everything is in motion, nothing in the universe is static.  Everything vibrates and has a frequency – a rate of vibration.  It is the range of frequencies along a vibrational scale that creates the polarity – up/down; high/low; hot/cold; in/out; joy/despair.  It is the same thing but at different degrees, such as hot-cold.

Your world, your momentary experience, is determined by your focus – your attention to a particular frequency of something.  Where your attention is, is where you are.  This is why Jesus taught that the “poor” will be around always.  Jesus didn’t mean “poor” as an economic term or degree of material possession, but rather the perception and perspective such a person has regarding self and relationship to other frequencies.  In effect, such people give their attention to what they “lack” rather than practicing their thinking higher on that scale towards “desire”.

Why do you enjoy being around certain people?  You know, you feel good when they’re around.  There’s more energy and delight when they’re around.  The sensation is evident, but what’s going on?

Induction

c: the process by which an electrical conductor becomes electrified when near a charged body, by which a magnetizable body becomes magnetized when in a magnetic field or in the magnetic flux set up by a magnetomotive force, or by which an electromotive force is produced in a circuit by varying the magnetic field linked with the circuit.  (Merriam-Webster)

The operative phrase is near a charged body.  Electrical induction describes a process of transference of energy or force through space.  This principle holds vast promise for accessing electricity.  Even more important, it helps explain such elusive phenomena as “mental telepathy,” the healing factor of “prayer,” as well as the sensation felt when in the presence of a charged personality.

Presumptions include

·         Energy is a vibration

·         Thought is energy

·         Vibration has a frequency

·         Energy can be transmitted

The bottom line is that we are vibrational beings and, being such, participate in induction.  There is value in feeling good – it has an effect on others.  In a sense, the best thing you can do for someone is enjoy yourself.  The reverse is also true – that you can be influenced by the frequencies emitted by others.  This is the sensation of entering a building, a room, a structure and having a “sense” of it – either pleasant or dismal.  Literally, it is vibrating, the vibrations at least in part the result of induction from other people.  Now, this gets to be fun when we realize this means we have a degree, perhaps a lot, of control over our experience.

Thought is the most inherent component of ourselves and we have the ability to chose, select if you will, how we think.  The way we think affects our interpretation of what we sense around us and how we project to others.   The implications are marvelous.

We help others through induction.  Induction charges, affects vibration.  The higher the frequency in a given subject, the better the experience.  By changing our vibration, and we do that firstly by changing our thoughts, we attract experiences of a similar vibration.  The better it gets, the better it gets.  The worse it gets, the worse it gets.  It’s the vibration that’s the key.

Think of everything as a SCALE.  This is my polarity stick.  It has four sides, representing Direction, Temperature, and Emotions.  There’s North/South, Hot/Cold, Love/Hate, and Joy/Despair.

Imagine that we are all at the North Pole.  But, it’s time to move on.  Someone plans to go to New York.  Someone plans to go to London.  Someone plans to go to Bossier City.  Someone intends to go to Saigon.  What direction does each person go?  South.  They arrive in different places, but all head in the same direction.

Hot and Cold.  Same thing, just a matter of degree.  For our senses, “hot” might be the vibrational point that causes water molecules to separate.  “Cold” might be the point where water molecules crystalize.  We set the standard for these “extremes” these two aspects of the same thing.

Love and Hate are the same thing, just different expressions of frequency.  Which one is more pleasant?  Certainly love.  However, if a person has experienced despair for a long time, a feeling of “hate” is an improvement.  There is no right or wrong along any scale.  It is what it is.  We have the ability, with thought, to move our frequency closer to that which we wish to experience.

For many of us, that would be Joy.  But we can’t be on the same frequency as joy if our attention is on something that distresses us.  To be more joyful means that we give our attention to joy; to choose to focus on the Good in our immediate moment.

So, what do we have?

There is ONE universe.  The Universe is a mental creation of that we call God (capital G).  All is in motion – energy vibrates and the frequency determines its nature.

We think with our Mind.  Thoughts are not products of the brain, a physical organ.  Our Mind attracts thoughts based on our attention.  This is great!  We have the ability, and the authority, to give our attention to any and every thing that we desire.

Uh, what if we’re clueless to what we desire?  Not an unusual situation, actually.  Think polarity – even if you don’t know what you want, you most certainly are aware of what you don’t want.  What you want is the other end of the scale.

Recognizing that prayer and healthy vibrations are received by others is important.  Some folks, very well intentioned but not understanding how things work, might hold such erroneous beliefs that any time they feel good, someone somewhere must feel bad.  Or that if they prosper, then someone somewhere is denied prosperity.

Nonsense.  You can test this.  If you believe that having Good means that someone else is denied their good, then go home and get very sick.  Become very ill.  Suffer greatly.  By doing so someone, somewhere will suddenly enjoy health.  Of course it doesn’t work that way.  If you want to assist someone in poor  physical health, be healthy  yourself – project to them a higher vibration; when you give such person your attention, behold them with love and health, perceiving them as they truly are.

Another thing is to follow your Intuition.  It’s YOU communicating with You.  It is your Higher Self sending guidance.

The higher frequency rules the lower.  The only way to “get rid” of a thing or a thought is to give your attention to something else.  By “getting rid” of something your attention is on the thing you want to be rid of, which attracts more of the same.

What?  You “got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning?  Okay.  Take a moment, take a breath, relax, now mentally get up on the right side of the bed.  You can do this now!  There is no reason to give your attention to anything that distresses you.  You can ALWAYS think of something else, something higher on the scale.  And that’s the way you get there.

Charles Fillmore got it right:  If you’re unhappy with your life, change your thinking.

 

Habits, Patterns, and Thoughts That Go Bump in the Night – the Summary

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So, What Do You Have?
• There is a real, physical, sensation which accompanies change. Fear and anxiety may result when you are not aware of what is occurring.
• People are able to habituate. This frees the conscious mind for creative pursuits.
• Habits of activity, thinking, and feeling are created. Habits can be positive, negative, good, or bad. The process is neutral.
• Patterns are the cyclical events which are driven by the collected habits over time. Patterns may be difficult to notice at first—similar to not seeing the forest for the trees.
• Managing fear results in a positive experience. It’s true. Learning how to manage fear, even if not overcoming it, enhances self confidence. Fear never completely exits your life, for no other reason than there are always shadowy corners in life, and you don’t know what’s on the other side. It’s a great motivator.
• Expectations are created when thinking habits meld with feeling habits over time. Expectations are extremely powerful. In a battle of what one expects versus what one desires, expectation wins.
• People are created free and instinctively resist being forced to do something. The more free a person, the greater the sense of identity. The greater the sense of identity, the greater the demand for freedom. Sadly, the converse is also true.
• Words are important. Using the correct word, when you speak and think to yourself, is vital to avoid creating unnecessary internal conflicts. You listen and respond to your own thoughts. Become your “best friend” and not your “worst enemy.”
• Time will pass. Use it, it’s your friend. A part of human growth and development is to look back in time and assess your life. Perspective.
• If you know what is important, the rest is simple.
• Simple does not equal easy.

Useful Tools in your Personal TOOL BOX:

• HANDS. When in doubt, clasp your hands one way, then the other. It’s a good reminder that much discomfort and unease is a result of some re-arrangement, or change in your life.
• The Problem is not the Solution. If the problem never seems to go away, or if nothing really changes despite your hard work, then mentally step back and see if you are, in fact, wanting the problem to stop being a problem. Especially if the problem is a person.
• An irrational idea, passionately held, is still an irrational idea. Use this tool often. Are you demanding that people, or the world, get its act together in order for you to feel good? This is a path to insane behavior.
• Do I want to wreck my neighbor’s car? A handy thought to use whenever you feel angry or resentful. What do you want? Happiness for you, or for others to suffer? The two are not synonymous. Your energy should benefit you, not the S.O.B.s out there.

There are a number of ideas that go well with sticky notes on your refrigerator, computer monitor, or other special places:

• Habituation occurs whether you are aware or not.
• Stubborn is not a virtue.
• Don’t break a habit; replace it.
• Words mean things.
• The freedom of the word “choose.”
• Good Grief—using the spiral of time for healing.
• An irrational idea, passionately held, can cause weird behavior.
• Strong emotions are associated with memory. Forget about being able to forget.
• Perspective—cause and effect and delayed gratification.
• Don’t try, do something. Or don’t do it.
• Consciousness is a terrible thing to waste.
• Worry feeds on indecision.

Tried and True

Don’t discount the rich cultural history and wisdom that has been passed along as adages. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel of knowledge.

• Humans are creatures of habit.
• Birds of a feather really do flock together.
• You really can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear.
• A stitch in time saves nine.
• Making a mountain out of a mole hill.

The Bottom Line: Power.

The concepts and tools presented in this book can help you develop a greater sense of personal freedom and confidence. This is achieved by learning to become more aware of what you think, how you feel, and what you are doing right now. You may have developed a habit of not paying attention to these matters.

Your power to change is in this moment. Time won’t back up for you. It will not skip forward so you can see the results of today’s decisions and behavior. Of course you can devote your time and energy in those attempts. But why?

Nobody says that you must continue living with habits and patterns that no longer work for you. You have the power to choose what you do. The only obstacle to gaining more control over your life may be a reluctance to invest the time and energy to make a change. Perception is reality.

In every situation, at any instant, you can ask three questions:

• What am I thinking, right now?
• How am I feeling, right now?
• What am I doing, right now?

Once those are answered, ask three more questions:

• Am I thinking the way I want to think?
• Am I feeling the way I want to feel?
• Am I acting the way I want to act?

If the answer to any of the above is no, don’t fret. Right now, this moment, you have the power and the ability to change the thought. Change the feeling, or at least manage the way you respond to the feeling. Change the behavior, or at least stop acting in a way you do not like. You can do something to manage your life.

You can practice asking those questions several times a day. It’s okay to leave yourself sticky notes. It’s not necessary to rely on your memory to do this, because much of that is already a habit. Use reminders in whatever manner works for you. The important thing is to do it.

The only way to get rid of an unwanted habit is to replace it with another one. You simply can’t jerk a habit out of your experience— nature abhors a vacuum! That’s the same thing as “trying to break” a habit. Unproductive habits need to be replaced. There is no shortcut. Once you are aware of the habituated activity you can, at that instant, replace it. The new action won’t stick immediately, of course, it’s not yet a habit. But with practice and persistence, it will.

If the idea of replacing a habit is a little scary, then use another term. Supplant means for one thing to gradually take the place of another. Supplant is a gentle process. No sudden shocks, no dramatic shifts, just quiet, steady, consistent work, with a minimal of “Hands” type of discomfort. If you are prone to break habits, you may wish to supplant them. Don’t want to supplant them? Supersede them. Supersede means to set aside something obsolete and replace it with something new. Use that word and style if it works for you.

Life is a great adventure for those who choose to participate.

 

The Pursuit of Happiness

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As is said, it’s the journey, not the destination, that’s the fun (and important.)  Which is good – since each of us is on a journey, like it or not.  Many people do not like their journey.  Mischief ensues when they get the formula, the equation, for happiness, backwards.

It’s always useful to define the subject before discussion.  So, what is happiness?

Feeling, showing, or expression JOY.  We recognize JOY as the highest positive emotion in the emotional scale humans experience.  So, we can speak of happiness as a synonym for Joy.

Is Happiness the emotion felt when a person sees someone else experiencing misery?  Of course not.  However, there are some people who are so unhappy, so miserable, that their definition of “happiness” is but another degree of misery.

There’s the old joke:  A Russian, an Englishman and a Frenchman were walking along a county road one day when they spied a lamp in the ditch.  The Frenchman retrieved it and cleaned it up.  Poof! The Genie appeared.  Grateful for her liberation she offered all one wish.  The Frenchman said “Genie, I wish to be a famous movie star with beautiful women all around me.”  POOF!  He was a famous movie star.

The Englishman thought:  “Genie – I wish to be a Lord over a grand estate with enormous revenues and a loving family.”  POOF!  He was now a wealthy Peer.

The Russian thought deeply about his situation.  “Genie – my neighbor has a new car and I do not.  Wreck my neighbors car!”  POOF!  His neighbor’s car was destroyed.

Which of the three experienced Happiness?

The Russian may have experienced a curious relief that his neighbor was now as miserable as he was, but is that happiness?  Is that Joy?

That is getting the formula, the equation, for happiness backwards.

Emmet Fox summed it up:  People are trying to change outer conditions but leaving their consciousness unchanged, and it cannot be done.

In the joke the Frenchman changed himself  in order to have more joy; the same with the Englishman.  The Russian wanted change in his neighbor’s status – an outer condition – to share the misery.  Somehow, he imagined, his neighbor’s increased misery would lessen his own.

It is the essence of materialism that the environment – which means outer conditions. people around you, the “time” you live in, and such – is the primary influence, or cause, of your happiness or misery.  Therefore, it is the environment (other people, situations, circumstances) that must change before you are able to experience relief and get on the journey to happiness.  Much of history is the account of this effort.  Too many lives, sadly, are stories of the effort.

Materialism, as a formula, is flawed as a personal approach for joyful living.  It simply does not work; it does not produce the desire result.  Never has.  Never will.  Why?  The materialism formula is based on controlling other people, events, situations, and circumstances.  That’s way too many moving parts to succeed. And, it’s impossible.

Why, you could go insane trying to corral all those people and situations into something you could live with.  Come to think of it, isn’t that a definition of insanity – doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result?  Why is this?  Because you cannot think for another person!  You might bully, bribe or cajole them into temporarily acting in a way you want, but you have to keep at it.  The instant you let up, they act like, well, they act like themselves.

No one can think your thoughts.  You can, however, surrender your judgment to another’s thinking (the bully, bribe, cajole)  – which may or may not end well for you.  Your thoughts, your thinking, ARE you.  The only force, authority, power, energy (use your favorite descriptor) that can re-direct your thinking is you.  Period.  End of formula.  At the end of the day, your manner of thinking (a.k.a. your beliefs) determines how you experience your life on this marvelous planet.

There is remarkable resistance in many people to grasp that they hold the key to their personal comfort and delight.  Much of this resistance is learned behavior, pounded in from day one (if not before).  Indeed, for the infant, his/her survival and well-being is dependent on what others (mother especially) do.  Childhood is a learning experience of family and social structures and “norms” that define approved behavior and behavior that is not approved (often labeled selfish.)  Throw in contemporary technology and exposure to a theme of “you’re not important” and approval by others becomes a measure of success.

At some point many folks mentally step-back and assess their situation.  Many times it is a variant of 1) Spending money I don’t have, to 2) buy things I don’t want, to 3) Impress people I don’t like.

The aha moment for some is when they realize that they’ve been working very hard for other people, and very little for themselves.  Fully institutionalized it’s called slavery, and it’s still practiced these days.  Once a sense of freedom is grasped – freedom to think for oneself and hence to determine what is best for oneself – then begins the pursuit of happiness.  There is a sequence:  Life, Liberty, Pursuit of happiness.  It’s a powerful formula that works and has been proven over and over.  And fought, over and over.

Entrenched materialism is opposed to individual freedom, since control is the soul of materialism.  Individuals, freely thinking, are difficult to control.  The history of Mankind is the record of this struggle of thinking.

This is not a matter of right or wrong, good or bad.  Such definitions are relative.  They are the same thing, measured by degrees.  Consider prohibiting by law a person’s possession of a 32 ounce soft drink.  Is this good?  Bad?  Right?  Wrong?  For the person desiring a big, cold drink, it’s clearly a bad law and definitely wrong in that it prohibits freedom of choice.  From a materialists perspective limiting the “right” of a person to indulge in what is decreed an illegal act is both good and right.  What kind of environment is likely to result in a greater sense of happiness?

The Law of Attraction is universal.  That which is like unto itself is attracted.  This applies to things great and small, upon every degree of energy from dispersed to condensed, and very much to thoughts and their creative process – thinking.

You know this.  There are places where you simply have no interest in going – or when near you get an intuition or hunch, that you shouldn’t be there.  And visa versa.  That doesn’t mean that other people aren’t going there – they are comfortable in such circumstances.  Comfort doesn’t mean happy, just familiar and of similar frequency.

Some people are very comfortable in their misery and are very resistant to alternatives.  They aren’t happy, but they are unable or unwilling to begin changing their thinking in order to introduce in their experience an improved feeling.  The resistance is the manifestation of a belief that their wellbeing is dependent on circumstances, environment, other people’s behaviors, etc. – materialism.  As long as that belief is active, then their experience IS dependent on external forces.  Like attracts like.  Unfettered.  Belief in powerlessness results in lack of power – that’s the way it works!  “I don’t believe in the law of attraction,” one may state.  And the Law of Attraction will provide more evidence to that person that there is no law of attraction!

This is why changing thinking can be difficult.  It’s a simple truth and process, but inertia, habit, and continual reinforcement of materialism weighs heavy.  It can be subtle, however.

Years ago I met up with a high school pal living in another state.  He was quite cheerful, as usual, and enjoying his life, wife, dog, and job (yes, in that order.)  I inquired how he managed to remain so cheerful and he replied “I don’t watch the news, and don’t get involved in other people’s problems.”  At the time I considered that to be selfish.  (See, subtle!)  Why was he avoiding his civic responsibility to keep up with the news and doing his part of make life better for others?  He explained, in effect, that news (by this he meant newspapers and television – it was some time ago) was by design negative and depressing.  Watching/reading about what’s wrong in the world, society, etc., made him feel bad.  How could he be of any service to another (he was a social worker) if he felt miserable?

He had a point.  It took a couple of years for his position to sink in – if I’m unhappy, how can I be of any assistance to another?  I intellectually grasped the Law of Attraction but had yet to have it viscerally understood.  The more I considered my friend’s decision, the more I understood its benefit.  And the more sensitive I became to “news,” complaining, blaming and whining.  Those frequencies on the scale of human feeling were a bit more distant and thus more discordant.  The result was that unhappy people tended to recede in my experience and what I’d describe as more comfortable people showed up (or I engaged in activities that brought me near them.)  That’s when Emmet Fox’s statement proved to be a formula, an equation.

Finding your point of attraction, the usual manner of thinking, is a good exercise.  But, regardless, simply changing the focus of a thought will produce relief.

So, let us look closer at this universal constant – the Law of Attraction.

It is best described as the universal manager.  It is the operation of all that is that allows, well, all that IS.  It is not a matter of belief – it IS.  Of course, as mentioned a moment ago, if you do not believe there is a Law of Attraction it will see to it that similar thoughts/experiences come to you that support your belief that there is no Law of Attraction.

We are energy Beings.  At present conscious in a human form.  Energy vibrates and the frequency of the vibration is what attracts.  A fair analogy is broadcast television and radio.  The music or program is issued at a certain frequency of vibration.  That frequency will not interfere with other energies.  There are hundreds of radio signals, television, cell phone, and all manner of radiation zipping through here at this moment.  They don’t bother us nor we them because of the difference in frequency.  But, with technology (machines) we can tune a radio to the specific frequency of the program we want, and, voila!  We can hear it.  In a sense we have “tuned in” to its frequency and thus its energy and offerings.

Consider then our daily experience as a radio.  We are tuned into a certain energy frequency with the beliefs that we hold.  A belief is a thought, an idea, held in mind over and over until it is automatic and becomes a default state of mind.  This is often called our “disposition.”It is our state of mind that seeks, and is sought, by similar thought energy.  This is the origin of “birds of a feather flock together.”  So, in this cosmic sense, we influence what we experience by our primary thinking.

“Well, George,” I hear, “I’m not pleased with my situation so what about that?  I wouldn’t wish to be unhappy!”

Of course not.  Don’t forget our Russian friend who could only interpret his “happiness” in terms of misery for his neighbor.  His thinking, thus his dominant vibration, was misery.  And that’s what he continued to experience.

Dis-satisfaction indicates that you are ready to move your thinking up a notch (octave) in frequency.  This is totally normal and natural.  In Creation nothing is static, everything is in constant motion and motion is movement towards a higher frequency.  So, to be aware that your situation isn’t all that you’d like is a good thing!  It means that you are also AWARE that your Being is ready to increase your Life experience by raising your thinking, or consciousness as often called.

When you raise your thinking you access a greater vista.  If your current experience is bumping around a mess of trees (in a forest you can’t see) then by literally raising your consciousness you become aware of the forest and – most exciting – the horizon.  Your interests will quickly move beyond a bunch of trees and into a broader, more exciting, landscape.

Unhappiness is the result of having that discomfort with a circumstance but not knowing what to do about it.  Doing the same old things – and thinking in the same old manner – will only recreate the same-old-same-old – that’s the Law!  An improvement – the pursuit of Happiness – is all about changing thinking.  Attracting a higher frequency of experience.

The Great Truth

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The great Truth is known to us as the Universal Law of Attraction – like attracts like – every time, all the time. This is true in all facets of existence. It is the powerful tool we have for literally creating our life experience. This is what the great teachers taught.
One reason there was so much opposition to these teachings then, and now, is a mental premise that precedes its application: Everything is connected. That is a significant shift in perception for many people. So much of our perception about this planet is based on a shared mis-understanding. The universe, as is generally taught, is something separate and apart from a person and life consists of moving through an external, often hostile, capricious universe.

This perception is why so many of us are focused on the world around us, the environment, and the actions of others. We have become very practiced at paying attention to the world around us and our energy is thrust against it in an attempt to manipulate the environment/others to our satisfaction.  For instance:

I do not like to be sick. Disease is bad. The world is full of diseases. I must rid the world of diseases in order to be healthy.
There are people who do things I do not like. I do not like to be around them. I must  make them do things I like or go away.
The world is a dangerous place and I must defend myself at all times – from biting insects, from mean people, from storms…
There are too many people suffering, I want them to be happy. I must find a way to stop their suffering.
I want to live a better life, but I don’t have the connections to get the big money it would take.

When the universe is thought as something separate, something out there acting on its own, it’s easy to see why so many go through life confused and frustrated. It is easy to understand why so many people, then and now, cannot fathom the reality and incredible power of the Law of Attraction. In a nut-shell: With an “out there” universe, I am a victim of circumstance. There can be a lot of comfort in being the “victim” of a capricious universe: Victim = it isn’t my fault.

There are no victims in the Law of Attraction. It is scrupulously FAIR and totally NEUTRAL.
And that’s the rub.

Understanding the Law of Attraction requires the release of a powerful and ancient mis-understanding of who we are. The Universe is attraction based. That which is similar comes together. This is true at all levels – from the sub-atomic level of quantum physics, to the grandeur of the cosmos, to personal relationships, and day to day experience.

Albert Einstein recognized the spiritual nature of mankind. The universe, however, was separate from mankind. Man could observe, measure, understand, and manipulate the universe. Other than that, the universe would continue on its merry way whether Man was around or not. Man’s role is that of an Observer.

Physicist John Wheeler, in his long career, was moved to regard Man as an integral part of the Universe. Beginning with the curious but evident fact that the mere act of measuring (or observing) any aspect of the universe influenced it. A tenuous link was forged with the thinking of the observer as the force. Wheeler came to consider Man not an observer, but as a creative participant.

Another pervasive mis-understanding has been the nature of the universe. Physical objects, bits of stuff, occupy a vast nothingness, a void. Each object, large or small, is separate from other objects and, of course, from the nothingness or space it occupies. This makes a lot of sense if one examines only the outer world.

Science is a process of measurement, reduction, and prediction. Measure something, break it down to its smallest component, and predict how it will act under certain situations. There was a problem with reducing the atom. The atom kept breaking down into smaller and more elemental bits. In fact, the reduction found no “particles” at all but rather vibrations. This arena of quantum physics, sub-atomic space, is proportionally as vast as is the cosmos to the cells in your body.

The physical universe literally consists of no-thing. What remains is a vibrational energy that is the universe. A vibration is a result of a force, an energy in motion. We live in a vibrational Universe.

To get an idea of what this means, consider our five physical senses. They are sensory instruments that respond to certain frequencies of vibration. There is a certain range of energy vibrations that we can hear. Yet we also know that there are frequencies both lower and higher than our sensing range. The same with light – a slim range of frequencies. Yet we know that there is “light” of lower frequency than we can’t see, and “light” of much higher frequencies. Our sense of touch covers a limited range of frequencies. If something vibrates very slowly, we may not sense it. Conversely, a high frequency is not sensed either – such as the cell phone signals zipping through your body right now.

It is not a long step to comprehend that we are vibrational Beings living in a vibrational universe.  We perceive and attract similar frequencies.  Although this explains how the three dimensional, “physical” universe exists, it also extends the range of the universe into difficult to imagine vistas.

One highly resisted vista is the interchangeability of energy and matter. This is the E=MC² – that matter is made of incredible amounts of energy. Matter cannot be destroyed; it can be transformed, but never destroyed. That steps into the realm eternal Life – if Life can be equated with energy.

It can. And that’s what has a lot of folks spooked right now. Sometimes called the Zero Point Field, or The Matrix, or in the past, the Ethers, there is a fabric of pure energy present at every point in the universe; vibrating energy that is totally connected.  In an sense it is everywhere at once – “time” and “space” are not factors.

From this energy is produced matter. Like vibrations coalesce, attracting more and more like force, until there is sufficient energy to create a material point within the fabric. Seen from a cosmological viewpoint, it’s the physical universe of stars, planets, galaxies and so forth; on a quantum level it’s quarks, charms, spins and other oddly named actions. What governs this all-present, all-powerful energy?

Physicist Max Planck summed it up in 1944: “All matter exists by virtue of force. We must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent mind. This mind is the matrix of all matter.”

This is the dreaded “C” word many people avoid like plague. Consciousness and intelligent mind seem too close to “God” and that is forbidden in contemporary belief systems.

What if the universe is an infinite pool of energy in motion? The movement of which collected into like-frequencies bits resulting in what we recognize as matter? Not everyone likes this possibility.

Such a reality casts aside the ancient concept of a Creator-King ruling the stars and who designates rulers on his behalf on Earth. Divine Right of Kings. Mostly we’ve evolved out of that tribal power structure although retention to a Divine “Right” of power is very much with us. Religious wars have been around since memory and will continue as long as the old “universe” is kept alive by the beliefs of people. By extension this provides the justification for having and power over others – a rule of man made law rather than natural law. Easy to distinguish the two: Law of Attraction = you decide. Rule of Man = Someone decides for you. I mean, do you really need that SUV? Shouldn’t you pay a tax because you don’t “need” it?

So, it is easy to understand why so many cannot or will not consider the great truth. It requires a paradigm shift.

The Universe consists of vibrating energy. Being conscious, we influence the universe when we observe it. What is our contact with this universal force? It must be something similar or it couldn’t have influence.

Thoughts attract like thoughts. That’s so simple. Yet the application is awesome. Thinking is the way we interact with the Universe and how we influence it. The two are of similar stuff.  It is said that every thought, ever thought, exists. All the good thinking as well as the foul thinking remains – capable of being attracted to like thoughts now.

Consider thousands upon thousands of years of human thought – the good, the bad, and the ugly. All those thought-energies can move and collect around a thought generated NOW.
We DO influence the universe, which means we DO create our own experience in it. Which means that the universe, creation, is NOT finished. That’s another idea that disturbs many folks.

Astronomers have determined that the universe is expanding – growing. It was predicted to be slowing from the big bang. Everything is in motion; everything is changing; nothing is static. And that disturbs many.

Feelings are easily mis-understood. Where physical pain alerts you that a part of your physical body is injured and/or needs attention, so emotional “pain” or bad feelings alert us that something is awry with consciousness. Generally, when we feel bad, we are experiencing something we do not want, or, we may be thinking/acting in a manner contrary to our higher self.

When you want something, you have a good feeling when the idea, thought, or mental image is in your mind. You ask by giving attention to what you desire, thus attracting similar thoughts and energy. Once there is a match between the desire and the vibrations of attraction, the desire manifests.

Well, if it’s that simple, how come there are so many unhappy people? They give more attention to forcing their will on the outer, be it other people or the environment, in order for them to feel good. Yet, by thinking about what they do not like about others, they attract to their experience more of what they do not like! And, of course, they feel bad – and may work even harder to decide what you must do make them feel better.

Whatever we give our attention is what we are asking. It is our attention that the Law of Attraction responds. The stronger our attention, the more quickly we attract like vibrations, creating more of the object of our attention.

Remember, the Law is totally neutral. When we “ask” the answer is always Yes! The Law of Attraction IS yes.

Many of us hold an idea of a higher material standard of living. We translate that is “I need more money.” So we may hold a powerful thought of “I need more money” expecting riches to be attracted into our experience. Not much changes. Why is this?

What is a need? “Need” means a lack of something essential. So, by giving attention to what we need we are, inadvertently, “asking” for more lack of money. And we “get it.”
You see how generous the Universe is!

How do we think about health? I know people who devote much time and energy learning about what to eat, what to do, what medicine to take in order to be healthy. Many of them do not have the health they desire. What are they giving their attention to? Lack of health. Studying a disease, or condition that is NOT wanted.  Studying disease does not lead to health.

Emmet Fox put it very well in “The Golden Key” – Don’t think about the problem, think about God instead. That’s how to use the Law. Whenever you notice a thought or attention to what is NOT wanted, immediately think of God instead. At least for that moment you aren’t attracting more energy to what is not desired.

Charles Fillmore put it simply: “If you’re unhappy with your life, change your thinking.” The way to replace unwanted circumstance is to think of what is wanted and build on that now. Happiness doesn’t depend on what happens in the future; it doesn’t depend on what happened before; You are attracting happiness now (or, attracting the opposite.) You are deciding, right now, what you want in your life. You are asking by giving your attention to it; and the answer is YES!

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Appreciating Appreciation

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            Thanksgiving is one of my favorite time of the year.  The very name is positive, upbeat, inspiring celebration – to take a day acknowledge the many things in life for which we are thankful, and, appreciate.  Everyday, really, is Thanksgiving.  I suspect that many people who grouse a lot even cheer up a bit at Thanksgiving.  At least for a little time, they direct their attention to some of the good things in their life.  That temporary shift in attention produces a better feeling.  The question is, why not make such shift routine and feel better more of the time?  Let’s take a look at how this can work.

            Consider emotions as a range of points between two ends.  At one end are the emotions we describe as Joy and Love.  At the other end is the emotion we describe as Despair.  All other emotions, or feelings, are shades of either Joy or Despair.  Many of these shades we call hopeful, hopeless, anger, grateful, fearful, frustration, resentment, jealousy, guilt, boredom, anticipation, optimistic, pessimistic, confident, helpless, appreciation, and so on.

            Every Life is a journey along this scale of emotions.  But what are emotions?  On one hand, emotions are described as a bio-chemical response to a person’s environment.  Through the various senses the brain interprets the people, situations and circumstances and this evokes a “feeling” that may be pleasant or not, depending on the level of danger or comfort.  In this belief, emotions are the result of the world around us.  In order to have a better feeling emotion, to feel better, it is necessary to focus and control the world around us.

            On the other hand, emotions are considered a form of communication within Self.  In this interpretation, what we consider our Self, that is, our physical body and physical experience, is but a small part of our total Being.  While we engage in our daily physical life we maintain contact with our Greater Self, although we are seldom conscious of this.  Emotions are the language our Expansive Self uses to guide us.  When we “feel” bad, it means that our interpretation and attention of our experience is not aligned with our True Self.

            One way to recognize True Self is to remember Jiminy Cricket from the Disney movie “Pinocchio.”  Jiminy advises Pinocchio to let his conscience be his guide.  What we call “conscience” is part of that direct communication with our higher self.  The better we feel, the more we are in sync with our Higher Consciousness.  This belief recognizes our mental attention as the cause of the feelings we have.

            Both beliefs are true.  Which belief is in play depends on the perspective of the individual.  If a person believes that he/she is a product or victim  of external forces, and situations, then emotions will be an indicator of the amount of good or bad experienced.  The bad, or negative, feelings motivate action to fight or escape the pain inducing situation.  The good feelings motivate to fight and struggle to make more changes in outer situations to induce more good feelings.

            However, if a person believes that he/she is a spiritual Being, having the ability to Think and Create, then emotions may be understood to be indicators of vibrational alignment with the Thinking, Creating Self.  Now, that’s not nearly as cosmic as it might appear.  How do you feel when you’ve done something that you believe is good?  You feel “good.”  How do you feel when you’ve done something you believe is bad?  You feel “guilty.”  It’s the interpretation of emotions that is important.  Hey, the cricket got it right.

            Emotions do not cause your actions and experience.  You are not at the mercy of capricious feelings.  Feelings reflect your decisions and actions.  If you’re not feeling good, then your mental attention is on subjects and situations that are out of sync with your Higher Self.  If you’re feeling good, then your mental attention is on subjects and situations that are more in sync.  Emotions are not created by what other people do or don’t do, or the “what is” that you see around you.

            Emotions are not something to be feared.  Understood as the language of spirit, emotions are a fabulous guide to interpreting and managing Life – follow your hunch, let your conscience be your guide.  If you feel good about something, there’s a reason.  If you feel badly about something, there is a reason.  The reason is you.

            So, let’s say someone is generally depressed, or feels helpless most of the time.  What’s going on here?  The emotion called depression is an after-effect of believing that a person has no power to influence the people, situations, and circumstances around him/her; that they are helpless to improve our life situation.  From this perspective, the person cannot do anything about his/her state of being until someone or something in the external world changes for them.  I’ve called this mortgaging your happiness.  If you believe that you can only become a happier, healthier person IF someone or something does what you want them to do, then it’ll be a long wait, and probably a lot of activity attempting to make others conform to what you want them to do.  HINT:  How easy is it for others to make you do something you don’t wish to do?

            A counselor once had as a client a woman who had been depressed for a long time.  After listening to the woman describe her misery and unhappiness, the counselor asked what she would be doing, this day, if she was not depressed.  The woman listed a number of things she would be doing, IF she were not depressed.  The counselor then suggested that she do them anyway, in spite of the depression.  End of the story:  The woman sought out another counselor.  She wasn’t ready to change her thinking.

            A lesson learned the hard way, for many, is that it is impossible to change other people.  And to give attention to the faults and wrongs of another only increases awareness of those features and diverts the powerful thought energy away from the individual and casts it upon another.  This process was summed up long ago in the adage that you can’t make a silk purse from a sow’s ear.  It’s true.  A child gets it.  No matter how much energy and intensity is directed into working a piece of pork leather, it cannot become what it is not – a silk purse.

            Now, this doesn’t mean that a stubborn person can’t or won’t devote years of energy and resources to do so.  A person is totally free to do so.  It can produce great activity, the person will appear very busy, but is a silk purse in production?   An irrational idea, passionately held, is still an irrational idea.  To paraphrase, “it’s the thinking, stupid.”

            The anger and frustration that such a person will feel may be confusing unless it’s understood to indicate that the mental attention is directed to something that can’t be done, that’s out of sync with natural law, that’s not advancing the true desire of the person.

            A long time ago a Greek philosopher, Epictetus, noted that:  “Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them…Suffering arises from trying to control what is uncontrollable.”

            What can be done, at any moment, is realize that you are able to change your perception of the situation.  It’s not about manipulating others to “get their act together” for your benefit.  It’s about getting your act together in relation to who you are and what you desire, regardless of what others are thinking and doing.  They have the same freedom of thought as you.  And, like you, only they can change their thinking.

            The goal of both beliefs is to feel better, to occupy a better feeling point on the emotional scale.  The ways to accomplish this are quite different.  One is activity based – attempts to change environment and people; the other is thought based – change your thinking.

            There is a short cut with the latter.  We love short cuts!  Instinctively, we know that resistance creates friction and problems.  We know, really, that the path to our highest Good, is swift and pleasant.  Suffering is neither a requirement nor a criteria.

            The “short cut” to live in a better feeling point on the emotional scale is Appreciation.  When we appreciate something, we delight in its existence.  We smile at it.  We are glad that it, whatever it may be, exists and that it is.  Everyone one of us is capable of appreciation.  There is, at every moment, in every circumstance, something that can be appreciated.

            Appreciation is the closest emotion to that which we describe as LOVE.  The list of things, situations, conditions that we can appreciate is infinite.  As Love is infinite, so is appreciation.

            Now, I want to distinguish Appreciation from Gratitude.  Gratitude is definitely moving up the scale towards Love and Joy, but it’s a frequency lower than Appreciation.  Gratitude carries the thought of the unhappiness before – the condition or situation a person is now “grateful” not to experience.  “I’m grateful for my job (because I have been without a job).”  Got that?  The negative is attached to the desired state in gratitude.  Don’t get me wrong, gratitude is a fast track to appreciation.

            But if you can distinguish the two, then you have the ability to appreciate.  Appreciation has no “absence” or “lack” of something attached to it.  Appreciation is simply delighting in the existence of something else, someone, some condition, no strings attached.

            Appreciation is our handy tool in using the fundamental Law of Attraction.  All things in the Universe that are similar in vibrational frequency will cluster, come together.  Birds of a feather flock together.  This is the Law that manages the host of frequencies in all things, including emotions.

            A good analogy has been offered by our friends Esther Hicks and her late husband, Jerry in their Abraham lectures.  If you set  your radio dial to AM 500 you will listen to what is broadcast at that station.  You will be very frustrated if you want to listen to what station FM 90 is broadcasting.  In order to listen to FM 90 you have to tune it in, turn the dial to the signal broadcast by the station you want.  If our emotions are not what we want, then it’s necessary to move our frequency up the scale to a better feeling place.

            Please remember that this is real, genuine, actual, and full reality.  The idea of having a measure of control over your feelings is not a loose feather from Happy-happy land, but physics.

  • ·         Step One:  I don’t like the way I feel
  • ·         Step Two:  Distract yourself from observing/thinking about what angers you or distresses you.  (Notice it doesn’t say “get rid of” or “change”  – distract YOUR attention)
  • ·         Step Three:  Give your attention to something you appreciate
  • ·         Step Four:  Keep  your attention on situations, things, that  you honestly appreciate.

            After a while you will feel better and encounter more pleasing situations and circumstances.

            It doesn’t matter what you’re experiencing, it’s always possible, at every instant, to shift your attention from something displeasing to something you appreciate.  Unconditional appreciation sets off a chain-reaction of delight – the more you appreciate, the more you notice to appreciate, which invites more appreciation, which brings into your experience more of what you appreciate…

            A person who spends a lot of their existence living in anger feels better than when he/she lived in helplessness and despair.  Always remember that a “better feeling” for someone else may not be what is a “better feeling” for you.  Our angry person may move into the frequency of frustration, which is a degree closer to Joy and Love, and therefore feels better.  It’s not possible to leap over the scale and go from misery to Joy.  You can only experience what you can experience.  You will have more Joy when you are more closely aligned with Joyful vibrations.  You can, deliberately, move along the scale towards better feelings and more fun living.

            Finally, over the Thanksgiving weekend, a Facebook friend posted a note to all about how she was enjoying giving thanks for the many wonderful components of her life.  I couldn’t resist commenting:  It’s fun to appreciate!  To which she replied:  It sure is!

            Have more fun.  Appreciate Appreciation.

 

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Text of a talk given by George Sewell at Unity of Shreveport

November 27, 2011

A Complaint Free Halloween

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The following is the text from my talk at Unity Church of Shreveport, October 31, 2010:

Boo! Well, that didn’t scare anyone. You’ve GOT to STOP Complaining! Aha! That got a reaction – “Oh, Yeah? MAKE ME!” From this point on I could list several ways how you’re life could be more cheerful, delightful, fun and joyful if you managed to go through each day without bitchin’ moaning, griping, gossiping or complaining. You’d probably listen, politely, but you’re already in a defensive, protective mode because I said “You’ve Got to Stop Complaining.” Of course you can complain. But you can also reconsider. You might even choose to complain less and appreciate more. That, of course, is totally and completely up to you.

We’ve just completed the first of two experiments for this morning. We’ve confirmed that each of you is perfectly normal and perfectly healthy – your instinctive response to “You’ve GOT TO…” tells me that. That response is hardwired into the oldest portions of the brain. As soon as you perceive a threat from any source your entire system automatically kicks into a fight and protective mode. You are ready to begin “le resistance.” You can choose otherwise, but your system is ready.

This response is so powerful and automatic that it leaps into action even if it is you who speak or think such words to yourself. Is this the language of your thoughts: I’ve GOT to do this?

Heck, no wonder you might be complaining – you’re locked in a struggle with yourself and not anything “out there”. Now that’s scary.

It’s time to pay more attention to the way you think about yourself, everyone else, and everything else. If your thinking, and, in turn, your conversations, consist of a lot of complaining, then you don’t “got to,” stop complaining. But you could decide to explore the subject.

Many of you have read Rev. Will Bowen’s wildly popular book “A Complaint Free World.” His congregation’s exercise with the purple bracelet to not complain for 21 consecutive days has caught on world wide. Many folks have taken that challenge and some even succeed. Most lurch through the process – they find it stunning how much of their conversations and interactions with others consist of complaints and gossip. That finding changes things.

I know of folks who have ordered the purple bracelets for distribution to their colleagues so they will stop complaining! That’s totally missing the point.

Google “A complaint free world” and you’ll find their website. You can do that now. Thirty years ago if I’d have suggested that you google something, well, I doubt you’d have the same mental image as you did just now. Some of you have known all about “Google” forever. Good! You’re already accepting immediate access to information. Information is not knowledge, however, but knowledge must have information.

Many people are comfortable taking up a cause, something they feel good about. Fine. Let me suggest joining the movement to end Ear Pollution. Let’s define Ear Pollution as the amount of complaints and complaining spoken. Do the math. Wow! Actually, this really is pollution and detrimental to a joy filled life. Don’t worry about your “carbon footprint,” become more aware of your “complaining footprint.”

Misery loves company. You’ve heard that. Perhaps you’ve been part of the company. That’s another demonstration of “Birds of a feather flock together,” which is a cliché for the Law of Attraction. It’s axiomatic that people who complain are not happy and that unhappy people complain.

So, what IS a complaint? First off, it’s “an expression, mental or verbal, of grief, pain or dissatisfaction.” We see, perceive, something we don’t like and we immediately want the opposite. That’s noble, and human nature. It really is. We inherently know that the Life experience is meant to be one of joy. If it’s not, then something’s amiss. Our system kicks into action to “fix” whatever the perceived problem or condition is. We’re ready to fight it!

How we respond depends on our philosophical belief system, or mind set. There are two:
• External Forces influence me and if I can control them, then things will be better and I’ll feel better.
• External observations are a result of my interpretation. If I change my perception (thinking) then I’ll feel better.

One is re-active. One is creative. You decide. Some basics about complaining:
• A complaint is NOT a statement of a fact
• A complaint is NOT an observation of someone’s behavior
• A complaint IS personalizing the observation or fact.

There are complaints and there are statements of fact. Facts are neutral, complaints are charged with negative energy.
Complaining makes it all about your external observation. You enter a struggle belief that it/he/she/them must change in order for you to feel better. So, why do people complain? According to Rev. Bowen:

Get Attention A primary need people have is to connect with others. A person may complain to a stranger about the weather or a local sports team as a means of starting a conversation.

Is it hot enough for you? (Hello!) The traffic was horrendous this morning. (Talk to me)
Remove Responsibility People will complain to avoid trying to improve society and themselves.
Nothing will ever change. (I don’t have to try because what I do won’t make a difference.) My vote doesn’t count. (So I won’t bother)
Inspire Envy A complaint may be a cry of superiority. It implies that the complainer feels they don’t have whatever fault they are complaining about.
Nobody ever thanks me for anything I do. (I do more than anyone.) My boss is incompetent (I’m superior to her.)
Power People often complain to incite others to abandon an alliance and switch to their point of view, and/or build support and power by focusing on what’s wrong with another’s position.
He is not a good leader. (Tell others I should replace him.) Her idea is wrong. (Support my idea instead.)
Excuse poor performance A person about to sing before a group may complain they have a scratchy throat to lower expectations should they not sing well.
Which do you think the following statements represent, Complaint or Fact?

I feel cold.
Why is this room always so cold?

He’s wearing jeans and boots to the office today.
Check out Mr. ―Business Casual in his faded jeans and scruffy boots.

Our revenues and profits are at historic lows.
Business stinks.

I feel tired.
I’m so tired.

This client is a basket case. You’ll never make him happy.
This client has a reputation of being difficult to please.

It is your belief system that is in play. If you believe that your happiness and well being depends on a capricious enivronment and the behavior of others, then you will see yourself as a victim – if you “complain” enough, someone or some system, may take pity on you and grant you relief (which makes you even more dependent on the person or system and more to complain about!)  That’s different from presenting and discussing facts in search of a solution to a problem.

Unity is based on the other approach. “If you’re unhappy with your life, change your thoughts” – Charles Fillmore. “It’s an inside job,” Rev. Joy Walker. We’ve already established that anyone will resist an external command, or force, to GOT to, MUST, SHOULD, etc. History is filled with external forces, such as government, religions, education, imposing rules and beliefs on people – think/do what we want or you will suffer! There are people who will plea for legislation, regulations, ordinances, Board actions, cliques and decrees to “give them” relief. War on Poverty, war on drugs, war on, fill in the blank. IT NEVER GOES AWAY because the attention is on the problem! That’s complaining. More complaining always results in observing more things to complain about.

It can get personal. It is said that behind every illness lies a complaint. The physical body responds to the thinking, or dominant thought patterns. In a real sense, chronic complaining and the mind-set it creates, affects health. In a sense it’s the question: Does a sick person complain because he/she is ill? Or is a person sick because he/she complains? You don’t find people who are happy complain, certainly chronically. I think that gives us a big clue. All you have to do is survey people you know, and yourself as well, and you will see the strong connection between dis-ease and chronic complaining.

The only reason anyone does anything is because they believe it will make them feel better, be happier, more joyful. If the results of thinking or action do not result in genuine delight and joy, then something is creating resistance, blocking the flow of health, delight, and joy.
There is a profound saying found in “The Gospel of Thomas,” one of the Gnostic Gospels surviving from early Christian sects. It is Saying 2: “Jesus said: Let one who seeks not stop seeking until one finds. When one finds, one will be disturbed. When one is disturbed, one will be amazed and will reign over all.”

Disturb means “to alter the position or arrangement.” Seek and ye shall find. Knock and it shall be opened, ask and you shall receive. What are you seeking? What are we knocking for? What are we asking for?

Joy. So we seek, and we find complaints, negative energy. And where does this come from? US. What is found is a shift in perspective which changes the way we perceive andinterpret our world. The finding is disturbing – previous beliefs and positions are altered. It doesn’t take much to create this shift.
or many years it was part of the Unity Sunday Service to include a recitation of the Lord’s Prayer. The congregation would affirm together, rapidly:
Our Father, which art in Heaven, Hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our debts as we have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not in temptation but deliver us from evil for thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever, amen.

Nice, but notice the difference when spoken more slowly, and deliberately, as the then minister decided: (spoken slowly)
Our Father which art in Heaven Hallowed be thy name
Thy Kingdom, come Thy Will, be done On Earth, As it is, in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and, forgive us our debts as we have forgiven our debtors and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil for Thine IS the Kingdom and the Power and the Glory Forever.
Amen.

For our second experiment, when we end the service in a few moments with the Prayer for Protection, let’s do something different. Following the Peace song, let us pray together James Freeman’s wonderful Prayer for Protection. BUT, let’s flop the last line. You know: “Wherever we are, God Is, and all is well.” Let’s say instead:
“Wherever God IS, We ARE. And all is well.”

A little shift in perspective. Happy Halloween.
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